(On another point I think you will find that many children are much more robust than the vulnerabilities we project onto them.)i

Yes, John. I'd thought this as well for quite a while. Then I found out, accidentally, just how much my then-eight-year-old son resented and even hated me for bringing my family back to the UK from Saui Arabia after 911.

He was torn away from a school that he loved, from friends that he loved, from a sport that he loved, from a pet that he loved, a house that he loved in a country that he had made his own.

He was dropped into a country that was completely alien to him. He spoke the language and fitted in apparently perfectly - but all the time there was an underlying hatred.

And, in his map of the world, I was to blame.

Luckily, I found out about this and he came to terms with it. Now things are wonderful between us. A whole new world has opened up.

Incidentally, it was during an Inner Compass FYD event with Andy Harrington that all this "stuff" surfaced and was healed. It was for this reason that I so strongly resented Austin's vitriol against IC and Andy.

Yes, John. Sometimes children are more robust than we might imagine. And sometimes they are very vulnerable. And it pays to be aware of both.

Michael