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I am a 17 year old high school student in Canada. I made this thread not only to get advice, to also re read what I have to say about myself. Usually I answer my own questions by talking to myself. So here goes.

I have been listening and watching Audio/video tapes on self improvements. From Hypnosis, to EFT, to NLP. I love Anthony Robbins audios/Videos; I really look up to him, and could only wish I had the drive he did for success. I study many Success tapes and so on. I’m smart when it comes to interpersonal communications and helping others with their problem, but when it comes to helping myself, I don't take my own advices.

The Subjects we learn in school is very boring or that I find useless to me. I think with Basic math, history, English, and Science are all I need in the real world. Instead we learn things I never really had in interest in learning. I would be in my classes and usually either not focusing or trying to focus but the things get either really hard for me, or so easy that I leave it for later. Yes I know "If it's easy why not just do it?" well...growing up I have created this habit and now procrastinate. My memory seems to be working well. My commitment and consistency is what I lack. I get too tied up with spending time with my friends, or my girlfriend. She supports me now a days to really try in school, though it’s still not enough.

I have listened to many tapes on Procrastination or things to do. Even with those tapes I don't finish listening to them or be consistent with the techniques that are given. As soon as a tape helps me with a situation in my life, I stop listening to it or I’m not being consistent to keep that problem away from happening again. At times I would get so frustrated and just think about my future and say, everything in my teenage life does not matter. If I just do well in school I can have all the fun I want in the future when I have a really good education and career. Than when I take little steps to improve and "Feel good" again, I just get caught up with my other habits and life style.

Like do you ever feel like when you read a book or listen or watch a video at home or at a seminar that everything seems like it's going to work out and life just gets better in those moments that you can't wait to go out and live happy, until you actually stop listening to the tapes and you go out in the real world and everyone seems the same and feels like nothing has really changed? I still fail in most of my subjects in classes even though I know if I went home and studied lots that I could be good at it. At times I feel like ok I’m going to go home and study and do all my homework than when the questions get hard and I need a teacher or tutor to help but there not there, I give up.



What I want is:
To do well in High school because I am already very behind in courses, that I will need to go to another School to do my upgrades. Even with that knowing I still don't make a Permanent real change.
Doing really well in school has become very important to me this year, but instead I have been studying things that have nothing to do with my High school Education.

Sounds like you want to do well in school, yet you also find school useless and boring. Sounds like my high school experience! In fact, this whole story sounds like my early experience with personal development.

Have you learned about the concept of "ecology" in NLP yet? (Btw, Tony Robbins completely misunderstands this concept.) Ecology is the study of how things connect, whether global ecosystems, personal relationships, or even how changing one habit affects another of your habits.

I found that studying and practicing Tony Robbins in particular hyped me up, got me excited (i.e. "motivated") for a short time, and then I came crashing back down again. This kind of "motivation strategy" lacks ecology, it lacks a long-term sustainable orientation. It has negative side-effects.

Lack of ecological thinking makes your changes short-lived. The same is true of our economy, where here in the US we are in a self-created recession due to short-term thinking and structures that encourage that kind of thinking.

Getting pumped up and then crashing ends up creating a vicious circle. Watch a video, get pumped up, do a lot of stuff, crash, feel depressed, purchase another product, use it, get pumped up, etc.

The way to get out of this vicious circle is to find another way to do things that doesn't require getting pumped up, some way that is focused on the long-term and sustainability.

I found that in the methods of Core Transformation, a powerful process that emerged from NLP, but you can also learn ecology by asking the question "does any part of me object to this change?" anytime you make any small adjustment or change in your life, and then actually integrating (not dismissing or pushing away) any information you receive.

Making precise changes instead of intense ones is also a useful premise. Adjusting the subtleties of submodalities instead of cultivating mania often leads to more lasting solutions.

Well he has really great ideas and ways of making everything do able in a fun way. His Personal Power II is really good and Ive listened to it half way through.

I will be ordering Core Transformation's as it seems like its more in depth.

Thanks for your comment.

Any other comments would be appreciated

Mikail, Curious about whether you've answered any of you're own questions yet ? !

You seem clear about what you want but don't seem to actually enjoy it or manage to do it. Duff mentioned parts above, asking 'does any part of me object to this outcome ?' could be interesting.

I could never really get into Tony Robbins, but core transformation did look like it might be good. I'd be interested to hear what you think when it arrives.

Core Transformation is an apt option, Mikail.


This made me wonder, for what purpose are you listening to those tapes and reading those books? Is it to change yourself or to change things around you? How specifically do you think listening to all that material would help you resolve the situation of "...everyone seems the same and feels like nothing has really changed.."?

To change myself, so I can see the world around me in a much more peaceful mind. My anxiety level used to be really high back than, now it's much more better. Used to have many Doubts, worries of myself. With these tapes I have figured out that, if things are Humanly possible, than it's possible for anyone to do the same as successful people. Gives me hope the most. Skills and techniques and life lessons are another thing that these materials give me. Well I used to negatively think about other's, I'd think there a distraction or they would never make it, or never change. Now I see the positive side to these people and focus on that. The reason I said "everyone seems the same" is because I had a belief in the Law of attraction in one point of my life, which didn't last too long and so I said everyone seems the same.

What I want to gain in all this is, To actually put my words into action. I have so many plans, so many desires, but so little action. I study procastination and techniques to stop it, but I even procastinate to even do the techniques or practice using them.

@Duff

When you recommended me Core Transformation's specifically which Dvd or Audio books do you intend me to get?

Or

Does anyone have any other recommended Dvd or audiobook for me to get?