"I have personally found that people are already feeling bad and guilty knowing they are not optimizing their health on a daily basis..."
Isabelle

I never said they did or did not. All I'm interested in is how you can help them to stay in a relaxed motivated frame of mind to loose weight . When they "give up" on the losing weight I can understand, it's all a positive intention thing at the end of the day , it's ok.

Hi Kate!
I apologize if it seemed I was speaking of you or your way of being by writing "I have personally found that people are already feeling bad and guilty knowing they are not optimizing their health on a daily basis..."

I wasn't! I was merely sharing my observations!

I wish you and your Mother health!

Isabelle

Hi Kate,

Your mum is luckly to have you looking out for her. I know your concerns are well intended but I will share my thoughts without too my watering down if that is ok? I will however remember that you are a lovely person who writes some very kind and considerate posts on this site, I say this will good intentions that will hopefully allow us to come up with new and useful strategies to help you and you mum.

First up, you cannot impose your dietary rule book or any other rule book on another person. If your mum is happy with the by-products that regular cappucino and a cake binge brings then so be it. Maybe we can let your mum decide whether she wants to live this lifestyle but we can use our NLP tools to cut the 'addiction' further up the trough (please excuse the pun!). Maybe we can throw some more factors for her to think about into her decision making process to make her decide to quit cappuchino and cake "all on her own".. he-he!

Have you told her about your friend who are a latte and day and blah blah blah'ed... diabeties...... blah blah.... so fat that they are ....... heart attack...... jokes behind her back.....

....or the one about your old neighbour took on herbal tea instead of cappuchino and blah blah... sexy... blah....blah..... looked younger...(you know the stuff)

or about how the manufacturing process of coffee beans is unethical and people that buy them are funding slave gangs in Africa and Brazil and blah blah...kiddie slave labor..... etc

I am sure you know your mum enough to really know which buttons to press and which strings to pull to motivate change in her.

I am guessing your mum is hitting the cappuchinos and cake through a socialising habit and not a coffee and cake addiction, could you offer her some help with that rather than the mentioning calories and diabeties. A little like a bloke who hits the pub for 2 pints of beer after work each day. The problem is formed through social habit or a desire to not go home more than the desire to actually have the pints.

It is difficult to help people that dont believe they have a problem, maybe conserve your energy and avoid becoming repetitive to your mum and start working the cogs turning in her hear to allow her to see she has a problem.

Anyone brave enough to come forward with a way of telling a woman she is "a high scorer in the dress size charts" without upsetting them?

I've already asked about the positive intention ,it's comfort. She eats nice tasting stuff because it comforts her. She eats when she's upset or tired or stressed. I have pointed out to her that if she'd want to lose weight she could eat a whole list of food, and she knows about that and she accepts it. I don't overemphasize it with her because she is very strongwilled and it's her choice anyway , it's her body and not mine. I think she's beautifull and I'm often commenting on her lovely new hairstyle , great new outfit and great smile.


I never tell people they are fat, I don't even use the word fat because I've seen how upset my best friend can get when you say those things to her and i think it's completely unneccesary to make such nonsensical comments.

I can see when she overeats caus she slips into a trance

feelfree wrote:

Whilst we're on the subject of weight loss, what can you actually do to help someone else to loose weight, to encourage them to take consistent action ans stay motivated? My mum is overweight and it's putting her at risk for diabetes and I would love to help her change this and am finding it somewhat frustrating. It seems asthough there's nothing I can do to help. She just likes the taste of a cappucino and a cake.
Any suggestions

Hi Kate,

What you are describing is emotional eating - ie eating when she is not hungry.

Her need for a sugar fix is filling some emotional memory, that she is either aware of or not - untill she sorts this out, dieting and sticking to regimes will not work... even if she does it for 6 months.... with emotional eaters.. they have to deal with the emotions first.

I specialise in this area and all my clients have been helped with this in just one session. If I can help with the emotional part then your efforts to steer her on the right track will no longer be in vain.

Let me know if you would like me to help.

Blessings and love
Nina

So Andrew! What's the latest? Are you turning into Adonis by now?

Isabelle

I have seen articles about use of NLP for weight loss. Its a nice and easy option to use NLP for weight loss

Hi Andrew, Last time we met I am sure alcohol was consumed in quite large quantities... But that was a long time ago! Well done for achieving the outcomes you desired.

I have successfully used NLP to shed weight, from 11 and a half to 9 and a half stone. Give or take half a stone. When I go to Spain I do love the tapas ha ha. I have used this stratagy with others who have also became the weight they choose.

I tend not to use the words loss or lose as this sometimes hooks into the contexts of anxiety and sadness. Instead I tend to go for phrases such as "gaining the body image that you want".

But if it works for you.... Go for it!

Jane_Ellis wrote:

Hi Andrew, Last time we met I am sure alcohol was consumed in quite large quantities... But that was a long time ago! Well done for achieving the outcomes you desired.

I have successfully used NLP to shed weight, from 11 and a half to 9 and a half stone. Give or take half a stone. When I go to Spain I do love the tapas ha ha. I have used this stratagy with others who have also became the weight they choose.

I tend not to use the words loss or lose as this sometimes hooks into the contexts of anxiety and sadness. Instead I tend to go for phrases such as "gaining the body image that you want".

But if it works for you.... Go for it!

A Hypnotherapist Publicly Loses Weight

Hi Jane - long time no see! Glad to hear you are doing well - must be nearly ten years or so...