I am not trained in NLP though I am intrigued by the techniques, processes, and claimed results. I think NLP can help in some situations I'm dealing with. Here's one scenario:

Married 1 year and already communcation difficulties are arising. Difficulties meaning I say one thing and my wife thinks I'm implying something totally different. Q: Are there specific means of communication which can solve this problem (may or may not involve NLP). Are there some precursor type things I'm not doing that I should which could clear this up?

Another scenario: My wife, (absolutely a beautiful person) is highly insecure about various personal aspects about herself. What I have done is always praise her accomplishments and good points and shrug off mistakes/make them seem easy to fix (Carnegie, I know). Yet and still, sometimes, it seems she needs so blasted MUCH of it, it leaves me thinking "OK, I'm not doing this right because there's no measureable results in the improvement of her esteem". Q: Is there a better way for me to handle this particularly using the communication models detailed in NLP? Q2: Easier said, how do you help a person with self esteem issues?

Lawrence