EFT Related

Okay so I dont know how many of you are familiar with EFT but basically Ive used it on and off for the past few months, and I find that its taken the charge of negative as well as positive feelngs.

My dilemma is when trying to do NLP and increase positive feelings, I find it hard to expierence the good feelings as they seem numbed or suppressed.. was this done by EFT?

If so how can I restore the positive emotional charge to these feelings?

Ive been feeling crappy b/c of this issue for awhile now

any advice is most aprpeciated

thanks guys

I think it would be hard to create that effect with EFT alone.

Could it be that all this time you have not even been working on the real problem? Maybe avoiding the problem with lots of EFT as a distraction has escalated it? Only a suggestion..

Hi Rahul - I'm curious to know how strongly you felt "positive" feelings before you started using EFT on the "negative" ones. Like John, I don't think EFT is responsible for numbing the good feelings, but allowing yourself to get back in touch with the feelings that make you feel most resourceful is a good way to begin to put those old problems behind you now.

Try this, in the spirit of experimentation: Start by sitting someplace quietly and assessing what you do feel right now, at this moment. I think a lot of people avoid doing this because it feels scary or even dangerous to feel "negative" emotions. In fact, what you're feeling are sensations in your body, so feel whatever sensations you feel, acknowledge them - "Yep, I feel that. Thanks." And accept them. And accept that you feel strange (in whatever way you do, if you do) for accepting them, and accept whatever comes up behind that. Just do that, maintaining a running monologue (or dialogue) of accepting and thanking, and accepting for as long as you can, and let us know what's different after you've done it for at least a few minutes.

It can be hard to get started on change until you have a good picture of where you are right now, and a real sense of accepting that for what is right now, and accepting that you want to change some stuff, but this is where you're starting from. Right here, right now.

And you might want to see what happens when you think of those sensations as just sensations, without attaching meaning to them: "Yeah, I feel a kind of sharp sensation in the middle of my chest. Yeah, I accept that..." Just a thought.

It's strange, but I dont like the way EFT has changed me. It's made me more calm but it's also taken away a lot of my pleasure emotions. The CHARGE on good feelings, things that would normally get me excited seem to be numbed/flattened out.

I'm almost certain it is something to do with the energy charge that EFT has changed on my emotions, and I would give anything to reverse the effect.

As a result, I find it hard to actually feel 'good memories' when doing NLP exercises such as anchoring or swishing. What do I do now?

Are there any known ways to reverse the effects of energy/meridian therapies such as EFT?

..and I would give anything to reverse the effect.

Really.. How about an answer to a question? How about more detailed description of what you have actually been doing? How do you know its due to EFT - it could be anything so maybe something else is up? How about some feedback from Bridget's exercises?

You are claiming something that I find quite hard to believe (it seems unlikely to me but who knows you may have been doing some other crazy shit too). So throw the lions something to chew on!

The quality and quantity of advice is going to rely on quality of information given and degree of participation shown.

Hi Rahul

Is this in someway related to your other post? If so, it might be a good idea to concentrate your efforts in one area.

Like John pointed out, answering the questions will help you to understand what you are doing and help us to help you.

Have a great day

Frederic

As far as I am aware (I've been using EFT for more than 10 years on both myself and clients) EFT does not reduce positive feelings.

It sounds to me as though you've resolved some surface issues (or part issues) and uncovered some things that need more work, not less.

How about tapping for "I find it hard to expierence the good feelings as they seem numbed or suppressed" or "Ive been feeling crappy b/c of this issue for awhile now"?

Greg

Hi Rahul

I've given your case quite some thought for the last few days. A friend experienced something quite similar to you after using similar self-help interventions.

She got it sorted though. She went to see an expert on depression and he told her that it could be that her methods were making her too dissociated. This was also a negative spiral as she was becoming a control freak about her particular life problems/irritations. Whenever she experienced a troubling thought, she would dissociate, and often she would use a breathing and body movement technique.

She stopped doing it and now she's fine. Basically you have to realize that some people are highly susceptible to dissociation techniques.

Her counselor told her to focus on the fun stuff of life rather than worry about negative feelings or negativity. Its a question of focus on the good of solid reality, rather than hiding away from negativity. And you may want to focus on attitude rather than neuro-ritual.

Anyway, this avenue may be one option for you to explore

Rich