She Asked How to Forget...

My wife, Connirae and I developed a systematic and dependable pattern for resolving grief, based on "mapping across" submodalities, that should be in everyone's "toolkit." A (free) article describing it in great detail can be found at: Steve Andreas Home

Just read this, Wow, Thank you for having this available Steve.

Tony,
I have an idea that may not or may be useful in some way. This isn't hypnotising to forget as such merely another possible avenue.

My thoughts on this are to offer the idea that the time they spent together was a great way of understanding some of the things she would like to find in another boyfriend.
What were the really cool things she liked about him? She doesn't need to tell you the details, ask how she will know when she meets a boy who has these qualities.
Ask where she might be when she notices that quality next?
It's worth reminding ourselves that Life is a learning experience and one day is never the same as the next, even if sometimes it seems that way. Everything we've done brought us to here and helped us to decide on the things we like in life.
Also, it's worth mentioning sometimes you got to kiss some frogs to find out what you really do want from a prince.

You will of course have your own metaphors / ideas to add to this but it may take the form of an informal chat around these ideas. Something with the "need to change" removed might yield some sort of result for you both.

WARNING - HALLUCINATION-JUST AN IDEA - THE FOLLOWING IS NOT TRUE
If on some level she is picturing her future possible boyfriend and feeling the strong kino anchor from the previous then this might result in the type of behaviors you've mention, make sense? So what I think may be useful would be a conversation such as an extrapolated version of the above. This will build states and collapse anchors (without having to 'do' anything) if done gently, with rapport and a sense of humor.
As for negatives / things she doesn't want in her next boy friend, when you start on the positives she'll make her own mind up on those other things. There really is nothing like a new perspective, is there?

Enjoy

Andy