We need 4 hugs a day for survival. We need 8 hugs a day for maintenance. We need 12 hugs a day for growth. Virginia Satir |
When I first heard this quote I determined mathematically that I'd been dead for several years already

, and yet I breathed. So I wondered at the time if perhaps I might redefine this
for myself from "hugs" to "instances of human contact." During the half-years I've spent in London, I've been isolated enough from humanity to have to include in that category emails and IMs from friends and family, answers to my forum posts and "Next!" from the clerks at Tesco, and still not attain the "growth" level. Hey, does that mean I'm not aging? Cool!:cool:
Physical contact is good, provided it's someone I want to have contact with. People who insist on hugging me when they don't know if it's welcome tend to get slotted into my "avoid" column pretty quickly. Does that mean I'm secretly British? Possibly.
Once instance of human contact that I welcome on nearly every occasion is a smile. I like to pass those out liberally, as well. And they're good for times when a hug just won't do.